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Thanksgiving 2.0

thankful posterBeing thankful is something we all work on, but what we’re thankful for can change – and that’s okay.

Today I boarded our plane and saw a sweet couple sitting with their 6 month old baby boy. I asked if the seat next to them was taken and they looked shocked that I’d be interested. The dad even said, “You’re awfully brave” as I sat down.

I couldn’t help but smile, because these two had no idea how thankful I was to sit next to them and just be near this precious boy. I miss those days and yet I am so very, very thankful that they had the baby and not me. I love sitting next to, holding and even caring for babies – but I’m THRILLED to not have one of my own. I’m just being honest. My version of thankful has been “updated”.

Don’t get me wrong – having a teenager and a pre-teen in the house isn’t a walk in the park – but it’s a different kind of exhaustion and stress. I’m so thankful to have memories of my boys as they grew up and explored the world. I’m even more thankful to know who I am so I can discover what it means to have a relationship with my children when they have their own thoughts, priorities, and ambitions.

I’ll be writing more about teenagers in future posts, but today I’m feeling a bit nostalgic and reflective. I remember being thankful for 3+ hours of sleep, when their teeth finally broke through their gums and the suffering stopped, when they played together in their own imaginary world I got to watch….such wonderful, precious times of truly being THANKFUL.

Today I’m thankful that my teenager thinks I’m the most strict, controlling mom ever. I’m thankful I can laugh with my teenage boy and appreciate his sense of humor, even when I find it completely ridiculous.

I’m thankful for friends who are ahead of me and behind me in this journey called parenting. They remind me to be thankful for today…for every single bit of today.

I love my yesterdays, but I don’t mourn them.

I love my todays, but I don’t let them overtake me.

I love the thought of tomorrow, but I’d never pretend to know what will happen next.

I’m so thankful for God’s grace and the gifts He has so graciously given me. My scripture for this season in life is from the Message:

Ephesians 2

7-10 Now God has us where he wants us, with all the time in this world and the next to shower grace and kindness upon us in Christ Jesus. Saving is all his idea, and all his work. All we do is trust him enough to let him do it. It’s God’s gift from start to finish! We don’t play the major role. If we did, we’d probably go around bragging that we’d done the whole thing! No, we neither make nor save ourselves. God does both the making and saving. He creates each of us by Christ Jesus to join him in the work he does, the good work he has gotten ready for us to do, work we had better be doing.

Wherever God has you right now is the RIGHT place.

You and I are JOINING God in His work , we don’t have to do it alone – that’s what allows us to be thankful – even when we’re exhausted and overwhelmed.

You are a blessing to me!

Thank you for sharing and following this blog and for being so very patient as I manage this crazy life of mine and rely on God to do the making and the saving – I’ll just keep “doing” the work in front of me – to God be the glory – he is doing GREAT THINGS!!!

Leave a comment and let us know what you are most thankful for these days…


The Cut

A few weeks ago I shared our dilemma with James’ hair.  It is beautiful, red and well – I have learned from experience that when you cut a boy’s hair and everyone can see their forehead they suddenly look like a teenager! Okay, so maybe that’s a little drastic but I was truly dreading the big cut because it was just one more reminder that my little guy is growing up and there’s NOTHING I can do to stop it.  This weekend he turns 4 and I was headed to get my hair cut and he quietly mentioned that he thought it was time for his hair to be cut too.  So without much drama, regalia or announcements we did it – well, Janie did it, I just watched in awe.

Tomorrow morning we are headed to play group and I can’t wait to hear and see everyone’s reaction – James’ hair has been a huge part of his personality! So with tears in my eyes and video camera in hand I trusted my sweet boy in the hands of our amazing stylist – Janie.  She talked me through it, let me take pictures.  She even asked if I was doing okay – I felt like such a needy mom – but nevertheless she helped me enjoy the whole process. 

So the entire haircut is documented, bit by bit, on our video camera and I will cherish that little moment of growth and transition forever.  It might sound silly, but I really do think that even now as I say goodbye to a phase of life represented by his long beautiful hair, I’m reminded that he’s not mine. I don’t own him or his future and no matter how hard I might try to I can NOT stop time. My brain knows these things but sometimes my heart is slow to catch up.  

My kids are gifts, not idols to be worshipped, coddled and frozen in time – nope – these are beautiful individuals that God is trusting me with and I don’t take that lightly.  So whether it’s saying goodbye to his long hair, walking away from his kindergarten classroom or dropping him off at college I’m going to let myself grieve – even if it’s just for a moment – and enjoy each moment of this journey.

My sweet baby James isn’t a baby anymore and I’m excited to see what’s next!

so…what do you think?  It’s okay if you don’t like it – it’ll grow back – but seriously – what do you think of his new look!?!?!?

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