Keeping the “YOU” in Unique

HAH-Blog-Hop-graphic (3)-1As a young girl you could find me organizing the towel and toy closet. It was something I LOVED to do. Keeping things organized and seeing a shelf with everything put in its correct place.

Yes, I was a bit of a nerd.

I was also a perfectionist and I was very hard on myself and on others.

This part of my personality started out harsh, overbearing and at times kept me from making friends and being able to work with others.

Fast forward to today and I am happy to report that this perfectionistic bend isn’t something I deny about myself but instead I work hard to redefine and redirect it.

Who I am and how I’m put together is a true testament to how creative God truly is. I’m not sure I truly know myself yet – but I know where I’ve been and how I got here.

Keeping things perfect and in their place is just fine – until you have children.

Children aren’t made to be or keep things perfect and I had to let go of my desires and standards in order to keep my focus on PEOPLE instead of things.

The Lord gently, but quickly, helped me release my unrealistic expectations while showing me how this part of my personality could become a positive part of my life.

You see, I’m constantly trying to figure out how to do things better. I’m reinventing, analyzing and trying new things to help my situations and my family work smoothly and accomplish more.

The REAL challenge with being unique is that I don’t want to see my personality traits as negatives. Instead, I want to understand and appreciate that God made me in a particular way, with specific gifts and traits and He can use ALL those things for His glory if I’ll let him.

I can be unique.

I should be proud of who I am.

But I can’t use my uniqueness as an excuse to be disobedient, difficult or overbearing.

I love who I am and I’m SO glad that each year I become better and better at being me.

I’m a better mom today than I was yesterday and tomorrow – well, it’s going to be even better because I’m spending today listening to God and being obedient to how he’s shaping and molding my uniqueness into His completeness.

What’s a unique personality trait you have?

How has it helped you as a mother?

Any personality traits of yours that you see in your children?

Tell us what they are and how you continue appreciating your uniqueness!

You are an amazing mom – you’re just the right mom for your family – trust yourself!







3 Responses to “Keeping the “YOU” in Unique”

  1. 1 Betty Bauer June 27, 2014 at 2:40 PM

    As an inexperienced young mother, I relied on my classroom teaching steps of planning, implementing, evaluating, and readjusting. I employed organizational skills I had lived by during my twenty-nine childless years. Surely this new “job” would be fool-proof because I was an accountable person. I was Mrs. Organization Plus!

    It did help to anticipate and prepare for family activities. But what was missing in my plans was the individuality of two young ones, not necessarily the same as I.

    This is where God entered with his flexibility scheme. It didn’t come suddenly, but gradually as I stayed tuned to Christian support and study groups. Remembering to keep God close, I relaxed my organization and adapted my plans to fit the personalities of my little ones.

    By allowing new ideas of theirs into plans, things happened in our family dynamics that my husband and I could not have predicted. A new model developed, one in which everyone contributed to the make-up of the group.

  2. 2 The Get Fit Mom (@TheGetFitMom) June 19, 2014 at 8:07 PM

    What a nice post! I try to think of myself as unique in whole, not just a trait that is different. I guess when I think about what makes me unique as a mom, it’s probably that I am heavily tapped into my son’s mind. For years, I have read a lot of psychology on children and I have adapted methods that been recommended and work. For example, I always believe in believing in my child’s feelings. Whether he’s hungry, cold, or sad- only he has the power to describe how he feels to me. I have no control over that. I also believe in never scolding the truth. I can remember adults telling me to tell them the truth then getting yelled at. Ummm… No effective. My son (13) knows to this day that he can tell me anything and I will never get mad.

    • 3 Kasey Johnson June 20, 2014 at 10:17 PM

      I love this take and you’re right – it’s so important to bring truth to the table both for ourselves and our children. Your son is blessed to have you – thanks for taking time to comment!

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